The lifesaving power of connection

Seth Eisenberg • September 6, 2023

We live in an era of fast-paced living and digital connections, yet loneliness and social isolation are alarmingly common. Loneliness isn’t just about feeling a bit down; it’s a silent destroyer of mental well-being. Studies have shown that chronic loneliness can lead to depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts and actions. Humans are wired to need social bonds, and when that need goes unmet, it can have dire consequences.

Earlier this year the U.S. surgeon general Dr. Vivek Murthy called for action to address the public health crisis of isolation and loneliness.


“Our epidemic of loneliness and isolation has been an under-appreciated public health crisis that has harmed individual and societal health. Our relationships are a source of healing and well-being hiding in plain sight – one that can help us live healthier, more fulfilled, and more productive lives,” said U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy. “Given the significant health consequences of loneliness and isolation, we must prioritize building social connection the same way we have prioritized other critical public health issues such as tobacco, obesity, and substance use disorders. Together, we can build a country that’s healthier, more resilient, less lonely, and more connected.”


Healthy relationships give you a sense of belonging, purpose, and a support system that’s second to none. When you have meaningful connections, you’re more likely to reach out for help when times get tough and less likely to resort to self-destructive behaviors like self-harm or suicide. Connection is like a safety net that cushions life’s blows.


How PAIRS can help


PAIRS, practical application of Intimate Relationship Skills, is like a toolbox for building and maintaining healthy relationships. This evidence-based program teaches you how to communicate effectively, understand emotions, and resolve conflicts – all essential skills for forming deep and lasting connections. 


PAIRS offers a range of workshops and resources designed to improve your relationship skills. Whether you want to enhance communication with a partner, family member, or friend, PAIRS provides practical guidance to navigate the complexities of human relationships effectively.


Connection is a powerful remedy for the loneliness epidemic and a key factor in preventing suicide. PAIRS provides valuable tools and resources to strengthen these connections and create healthier, happier relationships. By investing in our connections and mastering the skills needed to navigate them effectively, we’re not only saving lives but also fostering a world where everyone feels understood, supported, and connected.


It’s time to be a part of the solution in the fight against suicide.


For more information, visit www.PAIRS.tools or call (888) PAIRS-4U (888-724-7748).


Rachel Marmor, LMHC, is Chief Wellness Officer for Purpose Built Families Foundation and a graduate of the MIT Sloan School of Management Artificial Intelligence Training.



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