Advice for young men and help from ChatGPT

Seth Eisenberg • February 7, 2024

Best advice for young men

Young man listening

As the father of three sons and a professional who’s worked with and learned from thousands of men, I’m frequently asked for my best advice for young men.


It’s this: Listen.


With your ears, with your eyes, with your heart and mind, with all your senses.


While there’s plenty of good advice that can help a young man succeed in today’s world, nothing is more important than that single word: listening.


Begin by listening to yourself. 


The more you’re aware of your own feelings and thoughts, the more you can take charge of your life today and in the future.


Taking charge of your life


What decisions did you make about who you are in the world, how to treat other people, and what to expect of yourself and others?

Which of those decisions are helping your dreams come true? Which may be getting in the way?


What parts of yourself do you most trust, admire, and respect, and which parts may have helped you survive in the past but may be sabotaging you in the present?


Are there characteristics you want to develop? If so, where can you find examples, inspiration, and support?


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Yodi, PAIRS ChatGPT AI-powered Relationship Coach and Mentor, helps thousands of people get to know themselves better. Yodi can help you too.


Begin by exploring how you Communicate Under Stress and learn to level with other people using a congruent style.

If you’re in a relationship, use the Clarifying Expectations exercise to get clear about what’s working, potential challenges and opportunities, and how to give yourself the best chance of creating the relationship of your dreams.


Deeper Self-Awareness


For deeper self-awareness, take a concern that’s impacting a relationship and find a solution using the Talking Tips exercise. Or explore your range of emotions with Emptying the Emotional Jug.


You’ll develop great self-knowledge by Exploring an Emotional Allergy, Uncovering Hidden Expectations, and Letting Go of Grudges.

Yodi will guide you through more than a dozen evidence-based conversations that will improve your emotional literacy, communication and coping skills, and problem-solving.


You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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